Monday, March 5, 2012

Refried Murder to Benefit Denton UUF April 21 2012

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Refried Murder to Benefit Denton UUF

Hailey’s
and the Denton UUF Players

present
Refried Murder
(It's pretty cheesey)
Dinner Event


April 21st 6:30pm $25


Featuring
Music by My Kickdrum Heart
Dinner catered by Mi Casita
Silent Auction benefitting Denton UUF
@ Hailey’s
18 & Up
122 West Mulberry Denton TX 76201
Call 940-566-1286 or visit
http//www.facebook.com/dentonuufplayers
for tickets & more information

Wednesday, February 8, 2012

Making it Better

Last Tuesday, Dan Savage (the creator of the “It Gets Better Project” and the “Savage Love” column) spoke at UNT for their annual Equity and Diversity Conference. The “It Gets Better Project” consists of over 50,000 videos of people sharing their own stories of bullying or not being accepted and how over the years it indeed got better. Because of this project, teens who are going through a hard time (teens who are not accepted even by their own immediate family members and teens who are completely isolated from any source of support or affirmation) can plug into the internet and watch video after video of another affirming their inherent worth and dignity, of sharing their own story of challenge and offering glimpses of hope. On Monday Dan Savage told conference members at UNT that the “It Gets Better Project” is not an answer, but just “a lifeline we are throwing to LGBT kids so they don't kill themselves.” This project is literally saving lives.

Throughout the conference I was proud and honored to represent Denton Unitarian Universalist Fellowship. I received a great many words of gratitude from people from UNT, Denton, Dallas and from Dan Savage himself for the commitment our congregation has made to “make it better” for LGBTQ kids who need more than a message of hope, but who also need a real live person who can hold their hand through whatever it is they are going through and who can help them navigate their teen years while voices of the media, politicians, teachers, peers, counselors, clergy, parents and other family members are trying to break them down through deplorable messages of hate and shame.

During the address on Monday, he shared how sexual violence against teen girls increases when teen boys are bullied for not be “masculine” enough or for being perceived as gay. He shared how even the perception of being LGBTQ can create such a terrible life for a teen that they take their own life. I know that here in Denton there are teens who hide their sexual orientation in order to maintain their safety. There are children and teens in Denton whose gender ambiguity or gender identity makes them a target for harassment and bullying. There even LGBTQ allies here in Denton who are harassed as early as middle school for simply affirming LGBTQ orientation and identity.

Part of our work is in providing resources and support to our LGBTQA (and LGBTQ-perceived) kids while they are holding onto that lifeline so that they can go beyond just surviving to thriving. Throughout the year, you will have opportunities to support this effort. Right now you have some ways to get involved:

RSVP right now for our OUTreach Denton Valentine Dinner which is next Tuesday, Feb. 14. E-mail OUTreachDenton@gmail.com for more information. This is not just a fundraiser, but an important show of support for our LGBTQA community.

Drop off snacks on a Friday night at 7:00pm for our OUTreach Denton teen gathering (or leave them in the kitchen with a note indicating that they are for OUTreach Denton).

Talk with Rev. Pam about more committed, lasting volunteer opportunities to support youth or to launch adult programming/resources.

Thank you for your commitment to social justice and outreach and for all the ways you stand on the side of love.

In peace,

Rev. Pam

(Photo Credit to UNT URCM)

26th Annual "Celebrity Waiter Night" on March 13 (March 2012 Newsletter Content)

Save the date: Tuesday, March 13, 2012 is the 26th Annual "Celebrity Waiter Night" raising money for HOPE, Inc's work in assisting homeless families to achieve self-sufficiency. The dinner is catered by Metzler's BBQ. Cost is $10 per person. The event is from 5:00-8:00 pm at First United Methodist Church in Denton and is staffed by "celebrity" pastors. Last year a record number of DUUF folks attended and we had a blast. Join us again this year.

Take out options are available if you are eating on the go. This is also a great event for families.

I hope to see you there!

Rev. Pam

Friday, January 27, 2012

Valentine's Day benefit for OUTreach Denton (February 2012 Newsletter Content)

Dear DUUF Community,

We have an opportunity to support our wider community through our congregation's LGBTQA programming. We need a few waitstaff volunteers to serve one shift (either at the 6:30pm seating or the 8:00pm seating) on Tuesday, Feb. 14. Volunteers will serve food and drinks. Any tips collected will benefit OUTreach Denton. I anticipate it will be a fun way to support an important effort.

The OUTreach Denton Steering Committee also warmly invites folks from DUUF to attend on 2/14 and/or to share this information with others who might want to participate in a lovely evening out. Information is below. Feel free to circulate wide and far!

Celebrate Valentine's Day with OUTreach Denton!

OUTreach Denton and Seven Mile Cafe are partnering to create a romantic, fun, and philanthropic evening for the Denton community. Bring a friend or special someone and enjoy a delicious Italian meal, beautiful music, and warm hospitality at one of Denton's newest restaurants. Half of the proceeds will support needed LGBTQA programming and resources in Denton including our newly formed LGBTQA youth group.

Seating available at 6:30pm and 8pm on 02/14/2011. $30 per person. Soft drinks are included. BYOB. Reservations required (e-mail OUTreachDenton@gmail.com). Seating is limited.

Entree Options

1. Lasagna Verde with Green Basil Pesto (Vegan)
2. Baked Alaskan Salmon with Roasted Vegetables
3. Lasagna Rustica Al Forno (Meat)

Facebook invite with information
Seven Mile Cafe Website: www.sevenmilecafe.com

--
Rev. Pamela Wat, Minister
Denton Unitarian Universalist Fellowship
1111 Cordell Street
Denton, Texas 76201
Phone: (940) 381-2457
E-mail: :minister@dentonuuf.org

Sunday, January 22, 2012

Sacred Space: Architecture and Worship

crossposted with Under the Ancient Oaks

Tom Stovall
This morning’s service at Denton UU was titled “Sacred Space: How Architecture Affects Our Worship Experience.” The guest speaker was Tom Stovall, a retired architect who specialized in church design during his career, and a member of the UU Fellowship of Tyler. I don’t normally review Sunday services, but Tom had some things to say I think are relevant to UUs (who usually have buildings) and to Pagans (who usually don’t).

Tom started by defining worship as “a series of commitments: to yourself, to your community, and to a set of principles.” Then he asked “is a church building sacred space?” A Catholic would say yes, while a Baptist would say no. And he said a church building “expresses and supports a group of people with similar principles.” I can think of no better example than Denton UU. While our founders were for the most part Humanists, they loved Nature as much as any Pagan. Their principles are reflected in the building they designed and built.

Greek temples were built as homes for gods and goddesses, not for worship. Medieval cathedrals were built to emphasize the separation of the people and the clergy. The Protestant Reformation brought the altar and pulpit forward to allow for corporate worship.

A traditional American congregational church, with its rows of pews, center aisle and raised pulpit in the center, emphasizes the spoken word – it is a passive worship experience. The semicircular seating arrangement in many modern churches emphasizes gathering around a central point. For UU churches, Tom says this central point is our chalice.

layout of Tyler UU
Tom showed a diagram of his church in Tyler. I spoke at Tyler UU in 2005 – it’s a beautiful building in beautiful setting. It has an area for gathering as people come in from the parking lot. It has a long hallway with pictures on one side and windows on the other, to allow people to prepare themselves for worship. The doors to the sanctuary serve as a threshold – it should always be a conscious decision to enter into worship.

Tom went on to make some general comments about designing a new church building, something Denton UU will have to explore in the near future. I’m going to leave that topic alone for now, except to say it’s good we’re beginning this conversation.

Any worship space is a compromise between ideals and principles, practical considerations, and finances. Most modern Pagan worship is done in circles – we frequently call our seasonal celebrations “CUUPS Circles.” Like King Arthur’s Round Table, a circle emphasizes egalitarianism – no one is more worthy than any other. It’s an important principle, but when you get more than about 25 people, the circle starts to get unmanageably large. Put 100 people in a gathering and the circle is so large it requires a huge space and people have a hard time hearing and seeing what’s going on. Denton CUUPS typically sets a small inner circle, then adds concentric semicircles around it. The ideal of the circle is compromised for the practical consideration of allowing everyone to get as close to the main altar as possible.

Denton UU has no gathering area. I don’t know why the founders didn’t build one, but I suspect it had a lot to do with available finances – with a limited budget, you put available dollars where they can best meet your needs. Religious Education space and worship space were deemed more important than gathering space. I can’t argue with that tradeoff.

If you refuse to compromise, you end up with things like Wiccan covens who will meet in someone’s living room on a beautiful Spring evening, or with Druid groves who will meet outdoors during a cold February rain. As a Druid I very much prefer that worship be held outdoors, but I make no apologies for moving inside rather than putting up with 100 degree temperatures at Lughnasadh or the occasional snow at the Spring Equinox.

Salisbury Cathedral
I have to say I’m very much taken with the concept of gathering, preparing, then crossing a threshold into worship. It’s very easy to tell arriving guests “just find a seat in the circle.” But some of our better rituals have involved gathering in one area for announcements and opening ritual, processing to the main circle, and then formally entering into the circle by smudging or anointing.

Geometry isn’t the only consideration on sacred space – design and decoration also contribute (or detract) from the worship experience. The glass walls opening onto Nature help make Denton UU sacred space. I’ve been in other churches (some UU, some conservative Protestant) where I felt like I was in a theater, or worse, in a business meeting. When Cathy and I visited England in 2007, we were impressed by Westminster Abbey, but it felt like a museum. Even though Salisbury Cathedral is built on the same general plan, it still feels like a church, like sacred space. Some of our better CUUPS circles have involved spending hours turning Miller Hall into an Egyptian temple or the RE Wing into the Temple of Apollo at Delphi (and then turning it back into a UU church in time for Sunday services!).

Whether we are holding a Pagan seasonal celebration or a weekly UU Sunday Service, it serves us well to remember that we are entering into sacred space and sacred time. Anything we can do to make that space and time more special and more intentional will only improve our worship experience.
Gerry Veeder tells the story of our building to our children

Tuesday, January 10, 2012

2012 MLK Day Events (January 2012 Newsletter Content)

City of Denton events:

2012 Martin Luther King, Jr. Parade and Post-Parade Celebration
http://www.cityofdenton.com/index.aspx?page=33&recordid=4118&returnURL=%2findex.aspx%3fpage%3d277

2012 Martin Luther King, Jr. Day Celebration
http://www.cityofdenton.com/index.aspx?page=33&recordid=4116&returnURL=%2findex.aspx%3fpage%3d277

TWU has compiled a list of events in the DFW area:

2012 Martin Luther King, Jr. Day of Service
http://www.twu.edu/volunteer-services/6837.asp

Semi Annual Campout Announced for Mar 29 - Apr 1 2012 (January 2012 Newsletter Content)

Only 80 Days until our semi-annual DUUF campout for all ages. I know it seems like a long time from now, but if you want to go, you need to reserve a campsite NOW!

RULE #421: You can always cancel a camping reservation, but once the campground is full, you cannot create a vacant site to reserve.

The scheduled weekend is going to be perfect weather, so I guarantee the campground will be fully reserved well in advance.

Do it today!

Here's all the info you need:

- March 29 - April 1
- Ray Roberts Lake State Park
– Isle du Bois Unit
- Deer Ridge Campground
- bacon

That actually may be more information than you need, but here's the website for reserving:

http://www.tpwd.state.tx.us/business/park_reservations/#alert

questions?

Thomas Gonzalez, the shaman of DUUF camping has started a facebook page where the latest info will be available:

http://www.facebook.com/events/158288294279736/

or query me backstage

jake.cindy@verizon.net

Wednesday, December 21, 2011

Update Regarding the "Guest at Your Table" Coin Boxes


This weekend, as we gather on Christmas Eve and on Christmas Day, we will close our 2011 Unitarian Universalist Service Committee Guest at Your Table program. Please bring your contributions to any of the three services this weekend.

Also, please note that the Board of Trustees has extended this spirit of generosity and given us an opportunity to practice our UU values of justice, equity and compassion by deciding that all non-pledge donations collected at this weekend’s services will go toward the Unitarian Universalist Service Committee.

Through a combination of advocacy, education, and partnerships with grassroots organizations, UUSC promotes economic rights, advances environmental justice, defends civil liberties, and preserves the rights of people in times of humanitarian crisis. By donating to the UUSC you have the opportunity to provide oxen for families returning home from post-war camps in northern Uganda. Your gift can help to provide educational resources and outreach for workers in Arkansas desperately in need of fair employment practices. Or perhaps your gift will help provide water testing kits for indigenous communities in Guatemala located down stream from the GoldCorp mine. There is so much that the UUSC is doing locally and around the world.

To make your tax-deductible donation to the UUSC, please convert your cash and coins to a check made out to "UUSC" and complete the form on the box (or envelope which we will have available this weekend). Bring your contributions to any of the worship services this weekend.

If you miss bringing back your Guest at Your Table box during the closing weekend, please return it to the Fellowship office at your earliest opportunity. You may also make a contribution to the UUSC online at www.uusc.org.

We'll announce the results of our Guest at Your Table program as soon as possible. On behalf of UUSC, we thank and commend every person who has chosen to share their blessings through Guest at Your Table and for all the ways that you live out your UU values.

2012 NTAUUS Awards Luncheon January 21, 2012


The NTAUUS Awards Committee is pleased to announce the recipients of the 2012 Recognition Awards. Please mark your calendar for the Awards Luncheon, 12:30 PM on January 21, 2012 at the Unitarian Universalist Church of Oak Cliff. The awards will be presented to the recipients and the grants will be presented to the congregations.

The Awards Committee believes the Recognition Awards can be a vehicle for NTAUUS to use to encourage and support the growth, energy and health of our congregations. We see the process as inclusive. Each of these nominees has contributed their excellence to their congregations and beyond. Being recommended by their peers was a high honor. The Recognition Award acknowledges their good works, contributions and application of Unitarian Universalist Principles.

The Rev. Ellen Cooper-Davis will deliver the keynote. Rev. Cooper-Davis is minister of the Northwoods Unitarian Universalist Church in The Woodlands and contributes to the Houston Chronicle's blog. Tickets are $15 and can be purchased from your congregational representative or via PayPal on the NTAUUS website. We hope that you will attend to support the Recognition Award winners and to enjoy the grant award ceremony!

2012 Awards

The Ruth Clark Award – Staff

Natalie Briscoe, Director of Religious Education
Horizon UU Church

The Robert Raible Award – Minister

Rev. Pam Watt, Minister
Denton UU Fellowship

The Marty Robinson Award – Volunteers

Ian Rule – Board of Trustees, Communication Portfolio
Community UU Church, Plano

Ray Enstam – Chair, NTAUUS Endowment Committee
First Unitarian Church of Dallas

Nancy Foreman – Past President, Board of Trustees; Current Co-Chair, Chalice Circles
Horizon UU Church, Carrollton

Scott Grey – Webmaster, NTAUUS; Webmaster, AV Specialist
UU Church of Oak Cliff

Bruce Cameron – Builder, Chalice Jewelry Artist, Volunteer
Red River UU Church, Denison

The 2012 NTAUUS Awards Committee
Celeste Kennedy, Chair - Community Unitarian Universalist Church, Plano
Carrie Schweitzer - First Unitarian Church of Dallas
Carolyn Cameron – Red River Unitarian Universalist Church
Daniel Polk – Executive Director, NTAUUS
Mark Coomes - NTAUUS President, Denton Unitarian Universalist Church, ex-officio member of the 2012 NTAUUS Awards Committee

Monday, December 12, 2011

a note from the minister

I am filled with gratitude and joy for all the hard work and commitment that was represented in our congregational meeting yesterday and what it means for me as your minister. I am profoundly grateful to step into the role of being your full-time minister beginning January 1, 2012.

In 2010 just as I had completed my internship and was ready for a job, I was delighted that you had a half-time position AND in the town where I was already living. The timing and the location were perfect, but more importantly I have loved every aspect of my job and have loved every one of you. When I look out at this congregation on Sunday morning and sneak hugs and handshakes as you walk in the door, I feel at home. When you invite me into your homes in your darkest hours and in your greatest celebrations, I am honored by your trust and humbled by your faith. The thought of doing this full-time and starting so soon makes me giddy and so very joyful.

Having lived on both coasts, I never imagined myself settling down in Texas, but I am loving being a Denton resident and watching such wonderful additions unfolding (a growing community market, bike lanes, LGBTQ resources, a SCRAP store, restaurants with vegan options like Seven Mile Cafe…). I am proud to be from Denton and honored to be among so many of you from Denton Unitarian Universalist Fellowship who are leading the way to create such important and enriching contributions in our larger community.

Thank you for your trust in me and for all the ways that you enrich my life and inspire me daily. I look forward to all that we will do together in 2012!

Love and light,

Rev. Pam