Thursday, May 9, 2013

A Goodbye Note from Our 2012/2013 Intern

Dscottie timelineear Ones,

As I said in my final sermon, everyone at DUUF and in Denton extended such radical hospitality to me this year that my heart overflows! The affection and respect I have for you as individuals and as a congregation is deep and abiding.

I want to say something about one of my internship projects, the historical timeline we created together a few months ago. While the project revealed many interesting things about the 60+ years of the Fellowship, the most striking to me was how “young” the congregation is now, in terms of peoples’ associations with DUUF, or even with Unitarian Universalism at all. Our study revealed that barely 1/4th of the current members have been part of the congregation for more than ten years, and 57% joined in only the last three.

This relative “youth” of the congregation is both exciting and a little worrisome. On the one hand, the enthusiasm and energy new members bring is something many churches would surely envy. Indeed, there is a buzz in the air at DUUF that whispers promises of amazing things to come in the next few years!

On the other hand, the newness of most to Unitarian Universalism, and perhaps to serious involvement in any kind of organized religion, means many of your members and friends are inexperienced at how to “do” church. In addition to taking advantage of the leadership development opportunities our UU cluster and region offer, I urge you to seek the wisdom lay “elders” can offer and respect the expertise your professional leaders bring.

Most of all, however, I hope you will continue steadfast in your quest to be, as I said last Sunday, as radically hospitable to the stranger, the newcomer and, especially, to each other, as you were to me this year. If you can do that, the sky is the limit at the Denton Unitarian Universalist Fellowship!

Many thanks for allowing me to be a part of your Beloved Community for a time,

Scottie

P.S. According to UUA guidelines, “it is customary for the intern not to maintain any contact with members of the teaching site for at least a year.” After much thought as to how to comply with this in terms of facebook, I have decided to heed advice to “unfriend” folks I came to know through DUUF. Please know that I still care about you and look forward to Summer 2014, when I will happily confirm your “friend requests” again!

Wednesday, May 1, 2013

Texas Unitarian Universalist Justice Ministry

Last weekend I traveled to San Antonio for our district's annual meeting and spring conference. I attended a great session on a new initiative that is working to bend Texas toward justice. The Texas Unitarian Universalist Justice Ministry is a statewide justice ministry that creates a network to organize congregations around shared concerns facing our legislature. Alone there is little we can do to address statewide policy, but together we can go far in education and action.

"Our UU voice has been missing on issues such as women’s and gay rights, immigration, education financing, evolution, and many other issues that are considered by the Texas Legislature and its committees. It’s time for Unitarian Universalists to speak out based on our liberal religious viewpoints. TXUUJM will allow our congregations to provide a vehicle for the members of our association to make a difference in our state and to help those learning about Unitarian Universalism see the values for which we stand." Visit the TX UU Justice Ministry website to learn more (http://txuujm.org/).

There are multiple ways to get involved. First, consider joining me in becoming an individual member. Second, read more on the website and begin talking with others about ways our Fellowship could be involved. The TXUUJM offers some suggestions depending on your level of interest or involvement:
  • Are you willing to be part of a team of leaders to conduct a “Listening Campaign” in your congregation to hear and help define the issues important to our UU families?
  • Are you willing to serve your church as a TXUUJM leader to keep your church members informed on action issues?
  • Are you able to contribute to the TXUUJM semi-annual newsletter, conduct a workshop or forum on the issues identified by the ministry, or help to design curricula on state and local issues for our youth or adults?
  • Are you willing to be part of a team that makes sure your entire congregation is informed on issues, registered to vote, and be part of the TXUUJM voter database?
  • Are you willing to have a training session at your church to learn how to effectively meet with candidates and elected local, state, and federal officials?
If you are interested in joining with other Texas UU congregations to leverage our resources and make a difference in state policy, please consider learning more about this initiative and exploring your involvement in it. I hope many of you will begin talking about it and creating some momentum for involvement in the Fellowship. If you are interested in getting more involved be sure to let the Outreach Committee know (outreach@dentonuuf.org).

Margaret Mead said, “Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful, committed citizens can change the world; indeed, it's the only thing that ever does.” May it be so.

Love and light,
Rev. Pam Wat

Wednesday, April 10, 2013

Beyond the Birds and the Bees

“Sex and the Swimming Pool” by Elizabeth Canfield

“I’ve often wondered what it would be like if we taught young people swimming in the same way we teach sexuality. If we told them that swimming was an important adult activity, one they will all have to be skilled at when they grow up, but we never talked with them about it.
We never showed them the pool. We just allowed them to stand outside closed doors and listen to all the splashing. Occasionally, they might catch a glimpse of partially clothed people going in and out of the door to the pool, and maybe they’d find a hidden book on the art of swimming, but when they asked a question about how swimming felt or what it was about, they would be greeted with blank or embarrassed looks.

Suddenly, when they turned 18, we would fling open the doors to the pool and they would jump in. Miraculously, some might learn to tread water, but many would drown.”
Have you been frustrated by the religiously-influenced and/or abstinence-only sexual education class that is provided in many of our public schools? Do you believe that youth should be informed about emotional, spiritual and physical risks/precautions before becoming sexually active? Do you wish that you had a sexuality education experience that helped you in developing healthy sexual boundaries, values and perspectives? Do you want to make sure our children and youth learn about sexual education in such a way as to prepare them for the challenges, concerns, joys and confusions of human sexuality? Do you believe that this generation's sexuality education should include respect for and information regarding diverse gender expressions, gender identities and sexual orientations? If you answered "yes" to any of these questions, please support OWL. You can make a difference for the children of our congregation and the wider Denton community.



Our Whole Lives (OWL) is a comprehensive sexuality education program for all ages (kindergarten through adult). Different aspects of sexuality are covered at age appropriate levels – the “nuts and bolts”, sexual orientation, gender identity, different kinds of relationships, safe sex, making responsible decisions, learning to say “no”, etc. We hope to offer the more comprehensive twenty-seven-week middle school level program in 2013/14. We intend to invite the wider community as an outreach ministry and as an answer to what they are getting (or not getting) in their public schools. The program is made up of workshops that are fun and that help to ease conversations about things that people are often embarrassed to talk about. Students are provided with a safe place to learn, to talk about concerns and to ask any questions they have (there are no bad questions). Leaders for the program must have training that will help them feel comfortable and competent in teaching the material. Lesson plans are all mapped out so it is not necessary to come up with plans of our own. Training will be all day Friday, May 10 through Sunday, May 12 in Dallas.

A brochure is available online at: http://www.ntauus.org/pdf/OWL_2013_BROCHURE.pdf. Early registration ends on Monday, April 15th.

If you can attend this training and volunteer to teach at least some of the twenty-seven sessions for middle school in the 2013/14 school year, please contact Sue Lowry ASAP (dre@dentonuuf.org). If you cannot participate but would like to sponsor a volunteer for $250, please also be in touch with Sue Lowry. In order to offer the middle school OWL program, 2-4 teachers are required. If additional volunteers and funding come forward, we could also consider offering the shorter-term programs for younger children.

We are fortunate to have this training offered so close to home. Please consider participating while we have this rare opportunity.

DUUF turns out for Celebrity Waiter Night

What a great turnout from Denton Unitarian Universalist Fellowship as we gathered with other congregations to support Giving Hope, Inc. which helps Denton families to avoid homelessness and to achieve self-sufficiency. Rev. Pam Wat served as one of the "celebrity waiters" along with other Denton clergy and community leaders. Metzler's BBQ catered the event and music was provided by an progressive acoustic band called Texas Sky. Thanks to all who attended!


Grace, Adam, Lulu and Amber Briggle with friend Sarah and intern Scottie McIntyre Johnson...Lulu cannot keep her eyes off that wonderful band!

Ilana, Nicholas, Ila and Gabriel Morgan

Rev. Pam Wat serves up a drink to Gabriel Morgan

Cindy Jacobson, Gerry Veeder, Barbara Rodman and Jake Jacobson

Adler & Hearne Performing at House Concert in Denton Saturday, 4/13

There is gonna be an awesome house concert in Denton this weekend. Come see Lynn Adler and Lindy Hearne on Saturday, 4/13 at 7:00pm. Listen to healing, restorative, inspiring images that return us to the preciousness of love and life. Their Texas folk style, along with this intimate and social house concert experience (hosted by Linda Tucker), is the perfect way to spend a Saturday evening.  All are welcome. $15.00 suggested donation for music and food. BYOB.
RSVP today to Diana Forson at dentonuuf@gmail.com.
Get a taste of their music here: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=V0OFVMnA43Y

 

Drum Circle on Thursday, April 11

 
As part of our "Centering Thursdays" weekly program, Denton Unitarian Universalist Fellowship will be hosting a drum circle on Thursday, April 11 at 7:00pm. Open to all. You may bring your own drum or borrow one from El Lobo, the group leader. El Lobo shares, "I began hanging out at drum circles in 1995, then started collecting drums and drumming wherever I could. Drumming has always been that heartbeat and rhythm of life. I have promoted drum circles in San Antonio and Tarrant county but now live in Denton. I also play with a local band called It Is What It Is and is known for its Sufi drum style. Drumming helps me keep balance with my day-to-day job and more recreational life outside of job."

Older children and youth are invited to participate. Childcare will be available for younger children.

Wednesday, March 6, 2013

The Artist's Way Women's Covenant Group Forming

Women's Covenant Group based on The Artist's Way

Tuesday, March 19

7:00pm to 8:30pm

at Denton Unitarian Universalist Fellowship
 

The Artist’s Way by author Julia Cameron has helped millions of people around the world discover–and recover– their creativity.

Whether you are brand-new to The Artist’s Way or have a bookshelf filled with years of Morning Pages journals, whether you are working on a large artistic project or simply wishing to experience more creativity in your life, we invite you to be a part of a creative cluster/tribal gathering where we gather as peers to develop our strength and provide a place where creative women can raise, celebrate, and actualize the creative power which runs within each of us.

Women of any age are invited to participate in this closed group (after the group is established new members will not be added so that the group can build trust and togetherness). The group will commit to meeting twice a month over the next ten or twelve months reading one chapter per month.

If you would like to participate but cannot attend this first introductory meeting, please be sure to contact Rev. Pam (minister@dentonuuf.org) before the meeting. In preparation for the meeting, participants are asked to purchase their own copy of The Artist's Way by Julia Cameron and read up to page 25. This book is often available in new and used book stores as well as online.

Thursday, February 28, 2013

Your Committee on Ministry

Dear Members and Friends,

Like many Unitarian Universalist congregations, Denton Unitarian Universalist Fellowship is fortunate to have a Committee on Ministry. The Committee on Ministry supports all the ministries and members of our church in living out our mission as a church and our covenant with each other.

What is ‘Ministry’? "When Unitarian Universalists speak of ministry, we are describing what we all do together as members of our faith communities. We have ordained ministers in our tradition, of course, but those who serve their world in the name of the church extend far beyond the clergy. Though we are a diverse population, a common truth for Unitarian Universalist communities remains: regardless of the size or constellation of the congregation, the ministry in our faith communities is mutual... As people of faith, our ministry involves taking care of one another, maintaining an emotional and spiritual connection throughout life's changes. As we engage in mutual ministry, we feed one another. And in so doing, we are able to turn to lend our succor to the world. Our pastoral presence, our religious education, and our social action are all grounded in the ministry we give to and receive from one another." (From the chapter "Our Ministry", in the Unitarian Universalist Pocket Guide) Thus, UU congregations have what may be termed ‘shared’ ministry, where all members share responsibility.

What is the Committee on Ministry? The Committee on Ministry is a continuing body whose purpose is primarily to support all the various ministries of this church. Our role is to help strengthen the quality of ministry for this congregation and our main task is to monitor, on a regular and continuing basis, the effectiveness of the congregation's ministries. “Committees on Ministry are designed to track the heartbeat of ministry within a congregation; how the members...take care of themselves and each other, how the lay ministerial leadership serves a congregation; and how the called minister serves the congregation. It seeks to understand, assess, support, and advocate for robust ministry throughout the context of congregational life.” (Rev. Anne Heller, Churchworks: A Well-Body Book for Congregations (Skinner House, 1999)) The Purpose of the Committee on Ministry (CoM) is to tend to the whole ministry at every point: To be the congregation’s “ombudsman,” “process-observer” and “conscience.” The primary “doing” of the CoM team is simply to “be” in the room, noticing and telling the congregation what it sees and hears as viewed from the “balcony.” The CoM is a BE-ing team, not a Do-ing team, whose power lies in that it exerts moral authority, not legislative power. (Rev. Kenn Hurto, DE Florida District 2009)

The CoM meets regularly, with a prepared agenda for each meeting. We have a covenant of confidentiality, but not secrecy. Within the committee, we share openly our observations and concerns of the congregation’s ministries. Each member is responsible for being sufficiently involved in the life of the congregation so that they can each briefly report on how the congregation is attending to its mission. By watching and listening to what is going on in the church, by paying attention to what needs are and are not being met, how relationships between different groups within the congregation are developing or deteriorating, how the church is relating to its neighboring community, how welcoming is the congregation to visitors and inviting to new friends and members, the CoM can focus its attention on the vitality and health of the congregation and, when appropriate, steer resources to emerging issues. You can help us by sharing your observations and concerns with a member of the committee.

What are the responsibilities of the Committee on Ministry?
-Continually monitor congregational life;
-Help model healthy and deepening relationships with minister(s) and program staff;
-Continually educate itself about ministry;
-Support continuing education of the congregation for its growing understanding and skill in shared ministry;
-Coordinate periodic assessments of the shared ministry of the congregation and its leadership components;
-Periodically advise the board regarding the health of the shared ministry;
-Support the minister's planning for continuing education, sabbaticals, and other professional development;
-Recommend and actively supports such plans to the board and to the congregation.

Among their shared tasks are:
  1. Set Agenda for meetings.
  2. Set re-evaluation and reflection of Covenant, Mission and Goals (every January, with new member)
  3. Communicate with Board President/ Board Liaison (chair, primarily).
  4. Attend Board meetings.
  5. Communicate Mission and Goals to congregation.
  6. Liaison with ministries in the church.
  7. Lead development of CoM Policies and Procedures.
  8. Advocate for healthy communication, relationships and structures in achieving the mission of the congregation.
Who serves our DUUF Committee on Ministry? Members serve staggered three-year terms. For the 2013 calendar year your Committee on Ministry is served by Jake Jacobson, Sunnie Palmer (Chair) and Mary Curtis (who are pictured here). Rev. Pam serves as an ex-officio member. You reach the Committee on Ministry by e-mail at com@dentonuuf.org.

They are your Committee on Ministry and they are here to serve you. Feel free to be in touch with them or me to understand more or to comment on the ministries of our congregation.

Love and light,

Rev. Pam Wat

Monday, February 25, 2013

Garage Sale April 5 and 6 2013

The Repentant Hoarder

Church Garage Sale!

Friday April 5 2013

8 AM to 3 PM

Saturday April 6 2013

8 AM to 3 PM


Pre sale storage available. Contact Linda Tucker at lndtckr39@gmail.com to volunteer and store items.

Tuesday, February 5, 2013

DUUF Chili Cookoff and Coffeehouse Saturday February 23 2013

DUUF Chili Cookoff and Coffeehouse

SATURDAY FEBRUARY 23 2013 AT 6:00 PM

Come and taste some of the finest chili, soup, and bread in Texas (and beyond).

$7.00 Adult
$3.00 Children (under 16)

Contestants should prepare their favorite chili, soup and/or bread recipe. Vegan entries are welcome. Bring your entry to the Fellowship between 5:45 and 6:15pm.

We are looking for MUSICIANS who would like play for the coffeehouse audience. If interested, please contact the Cookoff Manager (Mark Davis) 940-390-7761 or sivadma@verizon.net

Eat, pray, love!